Exes feel relief after a breakup, and their brain releases dopamine.

• Exes often experience relief after a breakup, feeling glad it's over.
• Dopamine, a feel-good hormone, is released, helping them feel better post-breakup.
• If the dumper continues to contact them, it prevents the relief and dopamine release.

Continued contact from the dumper elevates stress hormones in the ex.

• Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline rise prior to and after the breakup if the dumper persists in contact.
• No contact allows the ex to experience relief and reduces stress hormone levels.

No contact leads to curiosity in the ex.

• The ex begins to wonder why the dumper hasn't contacted them.
• This curiosity stems from the expectation that the dumper would chase them.

The stage of concern is marked by hormonal changes and questioning.

• The ex starts to feel concerned about the lack of contact and the possibility of a mistake.
• Women may produce more oxytocin, and men more vasopressin, under stress related to relationships.

Fear sets in, leading the ex to re-evaluate the breakup.

• The ex becomes afraid they may lose something valuable and that they made a mistake.
• Fear leads to a sense of loss, which can be combined with love, creating a powerful emotional state.

The action stage involves the ex taking steps to reconnect.

• The ex may reach out or perform actions that indicate a desire to re-establish the relationship.
• The no contact strategy can lead to an increased likelihood of hearing from the ex.

Discipline in maintaining no contact is key to affecting the ex's hormonal response.

• Remaining disciplined in no contact can lead to the ex's production of stress hormones and a desire to take action.
• If the dumper responds too eagerly to the ex's outreach, it may reduce the ex's stress and lose the progress made.

The ex needs to feel like they are working to earn the dumper back.

• The ex should feel that they need to put effort into winning the dumper back to appreciate the value of the relationship.
• Rushing the process may undermine the perceived value of getting back together.

The video concludes with additional resources and a teaser for a follow-up video.

• Information on the Emergency Breakup Kit and a support community is provided.
• A teaser is offered for a follow-up video that goes into more detail on the substages during no contact.